“Without nonsense, we’d be sunk. It’s important, for example, that your boss “doesn’t get what you do,” rather than your boss, “doesn’t like what you do.” It’s also possible to end any bit of escalating marital strife claiming, over and over again, “that you just don’t understand me.” Honestly, my parents darn well did understand exactly why I broke their curfew three nights a week during high school, but it was so much easier to just accuse them of not getting it. “